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UKUTHENGA KOMNYANGO NOKOMOYA

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INGQONDO iyagxothwa okanye itsaleleke okanye ingabi namdla kwizinto nezifundo ejikelwe kuzo. Oku kuyinyaniso kulo lonke ixesha lobomi, ukusuka kwiinkumbulo zokuqala zobuntwaneni ukuya ekuphumeni komlilo wekhandlela lobomi. Kunqabile, ukuba kukhe kwenzeke, kukho ixesha apho umntu anokubona ngokucacileyo aze agwebe ngaphandle kokubamba, ukujija okanye uvakalelo, nawuphi na umbuzo omchaphazelayo. Isigwebo sakhe kwimibuzo ethile siya kwahluka ngamaxesha alandelelanayo, nangona izinto kunye nemibuzo ihlala ifana. Uyabhideka xa umntwana, enolindelo nokuzithemba njengoselula, ebudodeni enembopheleleko yakhe, yaye ebudaleni amathandabuzo, ukungakhathali, ukungaqiniseki namathemba.

Iinguqu zomzimba zivelisa impembelelo kwinxalenye yomzimba yengqondo; iimpendulo ziyalandela, kwaye nengqondo iyatshintsha isimo sayo sengqondo ngaphandle nangaphakathi. I-Elation ilandela uxinzelelo, usizi ulonwabo, isithunzi soloyiko luphela xa inkwenkwezi yethemba iphakama. Kukwanjalo ke ukusebenza kwengqondo ngexesha ngalinye lokutshintsha komzimba kuchatshazelwe bubukhazikhazi, kunye nempendulo evela kubuhle. Ubukhazikhazi butsala, iibhentshi, iziyobisi, iziyobisi; ukuphendula kwaso kuzisa iintlungu; kodwa zombini zihlala ziphazamisekile.

Ukufakwa engqondweni nasekwenzeni into okuhlala kulandelwa ebomini, kwaye kubomi buye ebomini. Ingqondo ayinalo ukwazi ulonwabo okanye nomsebenzi wayo oyinyani ngobukrelekrele ide ingabi lixila. Ukupheliswa koxinzelelo lwayo kunokuziswa yingqondo kuphela xa ukwala ukutsalwa nangayo okanye ukuzibandakanya kwizinto zangaphandle. Ikwenza oku ngokuguqula ingcinga yayo kunye nokuqwalaselwa kunye nokufunda ukusebenzisa nokulawula imisebenzi ngaphakathi. Ngokwenza oko kwenziwa inzame yokuzisa i-inert kunye nomba ongaphuhliswanga wefakhalthi okanye ubuhlakani obunokuthi busebenze phantsi kolawulo, kunye nokubaphuhlisa nokulungelelanisa. Ngokuphelisa ingqalelo yakhe kwizenzo zengqondo ngaphakathi, umntu ufunda indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo ngaphandle, kwaye uyazi nendlela yokulawula ukusebenza kwayo.

Ukunxila kwengqondo kubangelwa kukuvuthwa kwento engaphuhliswanga engqondweni kwiinkqubo zayo zophuhliso. Kumgangatho umntu abona ngawo ukusebenza kwengqondo ngaphakathi kwaye aqonde neenjongo ezenza ukuba into inyanzelise inyathelo, ubukhazikhazi ngaphandle. Ke ubuqaqawuli bengqondo bungaphakathi, emva kokuba ingqondo ilahlekile kwilizwe nezinto zehlabathi kwaye ithathwe ziinkqubo zayo kunye nokusebenza kwayo kuphela.

Umntu, enika ingqalelo kwimisebenzi yengqondo ngaphakathi, ubona ukuba izinto ezingaphandle kwakhe zibonisa ngaphandle kweefomati zangaphakathi kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo. Ukubonakaliswa kwengqondo kwizinto ngaphandle kokufaka impembelelo enobungozi kwingqondo engaphakathi. Nangona engekakhululwa ekunxiliseni ngengqondo ngaphandle, uyakubona unobangela wayo kwaye uyabuqonda ubungangamsha. Olu lwazi luqala ukugxotha ubukhazikhazi, boyise ukunxila. Uphethe ngaphandle ukunxila kwengqondo ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba afumanisa kuqala aze alawule ukusebenza kwangaphakathi kwengqondo nokunxila kwayo. Ke uyazazi iinyani ezingaphakathi. Ukufakwa engqondweni ingqondo kukusilela ukwazi inyani. Iinyani zingaphakathi; Izinto ezibonakala ngaphandle, ngokuqinisekileyo, zibonisa ngaphakathi.

Amabhaso elizwe liphela luthando, ubutyebi, udumo namandla, kwaye uluntu luzabalazela ezi zinto. Umhlaba ubanika umvuzo. Ngexesha lokufika, iimfazwe, uhambo, imizila yakhe emide yokufumana imizimba, kukho amaxesha apho umntu kubonakala ngathi uphumelele elinye lamabhaso; kodwa oku kubonakala kunjalo okomzuzwana kuphela. Kamsinya nje bakuba ngaphakathi kwakhe engakwazi ukubabamba. Basuka banciphe, okanye batshone, bangabikho, babe bemkile. Nokuba uyalahleka okanye usukela, okanye ukhathazekile, waphukile okanye ukhathazekile, ubomi butshatisa kwaye buqhuba kwaye bumenza azabalaze. Zonke izinto azinqwenelayo zibandakanyiwe kula mabhaso mane. Kwibhaso elibekwe ngalo iliso lakhe lengqondo, uzabalaza ngamandla kangangoko anakho okanye onako ukugcina amandla akhe. Ngamanye amaxesha amabhaso amabini amtsala ngokulinganayo, kwaye ukuba akayeki omnye komnye, kodwa alwela bobabini, ulwa naye yedwa, kwaye nemizamo yakhe ibuthathaka.

Kwisidumbu sakhe sangoku sowesilisa nowasetyhini, indoda ifuna ukuyeka uthando kancinane njengokuba inxila lifuna ukuyeka isiselo. Indoda ayinakuyeka uthando ngelixa liqhubeka njengoko linjalo.

Uthando kunye nezesondo zisondelelene kakhulu, ngokusondelelene, ukuba umntu abonane ngokwemvelo kwaye acinge luthando ngokwembono zesini sakhe. Phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba uphile emzimbeni oqhelekileyo kwaye ucinga uthando ngaphandle kwengcinga yendoda okanye yowasetyhini. Ngaphandle kokuba azazi ukuba ungumntu ozaziyo, engengobunjani, ngaphakathi nangokwahlukileyo kumzimba wesondo okukho, akanakuba nalo uthando ngaphandle koncedo lwesondo. Kuya kufuneka afunde kwaye azi isiseko sothando ngaphambi kokuba athande ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokonzakala kuye kunye nalowo amthandayo. Ulwazi-kunye nengqondo engaphezulu kolwazi oluqhelekileyo-kufuneka lwandule uthando kwaye lukhokele ngokuthe tye ukuba uthando alunakuphumela kukunxila kwengqondo.

Ingcinga yothando inxulumene nomntu ukuba athandwe. Ingcinga kamama, utata, udade, umninawa, umhlobo, inkosikazi, umntwana okanye isalamane, isimilo kunye nesini. Uthando lugqitha ngaphaya kwenyama ebonakalayo kwiingelosi, kuThixo-kwaye ingcinga yomntu kukuba ziyindoda okanye ubudoda-nto leyo ibonwa ngokucacileyo, ngakumbi kunqulo lwendalo.

Uthando kufuneka lubenezinto ngaphambi kokuba luve; kufuneka ibe nemvakalelo ngaphambi kokuba icinge; kufuneka icingelwe ngaphambi kokuba yaziwe. Uthando luyindalo engqondweni; kuvakala kuwo wonke umzimba womntu ngokwamanqanaba ahluka-hlukeneyo, ukususela ebusaneni ukuya kwelokukhula; icingelwa yingqondo njengoko ingqondo ikhula kwaye izabalazela ukuzazi yona; Imfihlakalo yayo iyaziwa ngokuqola kwengqondo. Oko kuphakamisa kwaye kungaphakathi kothando akunasondelwa de umntu azame ukufumana ubuThixo. Oko kuma ngaphakathi luthando ubudlelwane. Uthando kukufundisa umntu ubudlelwane bakhe nezinto zonke. Ngelixa uthando luphantsi kotywala, umntu akanakucinga okanye angabazi ubudlelwane bakhe bokwenene kwimizimba nezinto azithandayo. Ke uthando lumbambe esabelana ngesondo kunye nokuziva ade azimisele kwaye akulungele ukucinga nokwazi. Xa umntu ecinga de abuqonde ubudlelwane bakhe nento ayithandayo, uthando luyayeka ukuba sisiselo sengqondo, iyayifeza injongo yayo. Ityhila kwaye inxibelelanise iinxalenye zengqondo kuyo yonke. Ibonisa unissoluble ubudlelwane bengqondo nganye kubo bonke kunye nengqondo enye komnye.

Uthando alunako ukuyeka imfihlo yayo kwabo bayonwabelayo iintolo zalo ezivuthayo, okanye abo bagcuma amanxeba alo owenzakeleyo, okanye kwabo bahlaziya ilizwi elingelolize. Uthando luvelisa imfihlo yalo kuphela kwabo baya kuchitha ubuhle balo. Ukwenza oku kufuneka uvavanye kwaye wazi, ngaphakathi, izinto zothando ezingaphandle. Indoda, umfazi, umntwana okanye omnye umntu, zizinto zothando ngaphandle. Yintoni le ethandwayo? Ukuba luphawu, ingqondo, umphefumlo, kuloo mntu amthandayo, emva koko ukufa kwalowo mntu, okanye ukucinga ngokufa okanye ukwahlulela, akusayi kubangela ntlungu yokulahleka, kuba isimilo okanye ingqondo okanye umphefumlo awulahleki. ; ihlala ucinga, kwaye ihlala ihleli nomntu ocinga ngayo. Xa umntu ethanda umntu, ihlala ingesilo isimilo okanye ingqondo okanye umphefumlo ithandwayo; ngumntu. Ukujonga kwifom ngaphandle kwezihloko zokuqala kubuhle bayo. Ngelixa ujonga indlela yangaphandle, ukuba ngaphakathi kwayo inxulumene ayinakubonwa. Umntu ukhupha ubukhazikhazi bangaphandle ngokujonga ngaphakathi kwaye abuze ukuba yintoni echaphazeleka kwifom yobuqu ngaphandle. Njengoko ingqondo yomzimba, ukukhanya okuqondayo ngaphakathi komzimba, kuyaqhubeka kukhangelo lwayo, kufumanisa ukuba uthando alungomntu ngaphandle, kodwa luyinto ngaphakathi, evuswe kwaye ibonakaliswa nguloo mntu. Njengoko umntu efuna izibuko kungengenxa yezibuko kodwa ngenxa yokuba enokwaneliseka xa ezijonga, ke ngoko ufuna kuye abo acinga ukuba uyabathanda, ngenxa yoluvo okanye imvakalelo kuye leyo evusa okanye ibonakalisa kuyo. Xa umntu ejonge ngokuqinileyo ukukhanya kwakhe ngaphakathi, ufumana apho ikhona okanye ebonakaliswe ikwimo ngaphandle. Xa efumene oku uphiliswa luthando wakhe kukunxila kwifomu ngaphandle. Ubukhazikhazi bayo buyaphela.

Ngoku uyayithanda loo nto ngaphakathi, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubonakaliswa kwayo ngaphandle. Iifomati ngaphakathi apho zibangela iimvakalelo zothando, kufuneka zibambe ngokuqinileyo ekukhanyeni ngaphakathi de zibonakale. Njengokuba nganye ibonwa kuyo iyanyamalala, kwaye iyakubonisa iziko kunye neziko lezintso elinxulumene nalo, kunye nengcinga ebize umbandela wayo ukuba ubume.

Iifom ziyanyamalala xa iingcinga ezihambelana nazo ziqondwa. Xa ingcinga yothando iqondwa ngaphandle kweendlela zangaphakathi zothando, ke olo luthando lufanele ukubizwa lukhanye ngaphakathi. Ke indawo ekugxilwe kuyo yengqondo iya kugxila kumba wokukhanya ngaphakathi, kwaye kuya kwaziwa ukuba olo luthando lolwazisi kunye nolwakho. Inye yeyakho uthando. Xa olu thando lusaziwa, iingcinga zothando kufuneka ziphinde zibizwe ngaphakathi kukhanya; Ke ukuthanda kuyakuba kukufumana isiqu sakho kwinto nganye yokucinga; kwaye ke kuyaziwa ukuba isiqu kwilinye liyafana nakwisiqu sakho; ukuba eluthandweni kunxulumene nobudlelwane bokwenyani ngaphakathi kukabani.

Umntu okwazi ngale ndlela imfihlo yobudlelwane bothando unamandla angenamda othandweni. Unxila lothando alunawo amandla. Uthando lwakhe lukukuzibona kwindalo yonke.

Umntu owaziyo ubudlelwane kwaye uthando lukuye ngaphakathi kubo bonke abantu, ubutyebi kunye nodumo kunye nokunxila kwamandla ngaphandle kobunzima obukhulu. Indlela yokwahlula inxila yothando nayo kufuneka isetyenziselwe ukoyisa ezinye iindlela zokunxila ngengqondo nangokomoya.

Ukuxakwa kobutyebi kuqala ngengcinga yobutyebi. Umnqweno wokuba, yenza ingqondo ukuba icinge ngokufumana nokuba nayo. Ukucinga kukhulisa ingcinga yokuba kunye nokuba. Iingcamango zokufumana kunye nokumema ukuba zisebenze amandla kumbandezu ongafundiswanga wengqondo ozabalazela izinto ozilindeleyo njengobutyebi. Oku kulwela nomba ongafundiswanga engqondweni, ngamandla ajongene nobutyebi, agcina ingqondo ikwimeko yobutyebi. Ukuxakwa kobutyebi kuyaqhubeka de kube uphuhlisiwe kwaye ulawulwa.

Imvo yokhuseleko, umbono wokuba ubalulekile, ukuxabiseka kwabantu okubeka ubutyebi, ikhredithi enikwa abanye, ingqikelelo yabo ngaye "njengento exabiseke kakhulu," ukukholelwa kubaluleko bakhe, ziindlela zobunxila bakhe ithatha.

Umntu onokoyisa ubutyebi kubenxila unokuqalisa ngokuzibuza, ukuba zeziphi izinto zakhe zonke ezinokuthatha naye emva kokuba efile. Kuphela yiyo kuphela into anokuyithatha naye. Xa indlela yokwahlula uthando ngokunxila isetyenziswa kubutyebi bokunxila, umntu uyakubona ukungabalulekanga kwakhe aze aphulukane nengcinga yokubaluleka kwakhe. Ukuxabiseka kwakhe kuncipha njengoko impahla yakhe inyamalala xa kuhlolwa ukukhanya kwengqondo. Xa iimpahla ziphela kwaye ziphela ngokukhanya kwengqondo, kuba ngathi imithwalo iyasuswa, kwaye kuza imvakalelo yenkululeko. Njengoko uxabiso elibekwa lihlabathi ngokwexabiso lakhe lincitshiswa kukukhanya kwengqondo, ukuxabiseka kwakhe kuyabonakala. Ubutyebi bunika indawo ukufaneleka, ngumgangatho wokuxabisa yena nezinto. Ukufaneleka yile nto ayisebenzelayo.

Udumo lunxila yintando yokwenza into eza kwenza ukuba umntu aphile kwiingcinga zabantu. Ukwenza oku ijoni liyalwa, oonotsheluza abatyumkileyo, imizobo yomculi, imbongi iyacula, ifililham iyachitha; Bonke bazama ukwenza into abeza kuphila ngayo, eya kongeza ixesha layo. Zisoloko zikhokelwa yile ngcinga, abayilungiselela umhlaba.

Ukudakumba udumo kuya kohlulwa ngokukhangela ezo projekthi zicinga udumo. Kuya kufunyanwa ukuba udumo sisithunzi sengqondo, siqikelelwa yingqondo isuka kwingcinga yokungafi. Ukuxakwa kwengqondo ngodumo kuxhomekeke ekufuneni isithunzi, igama endaweni yokuzithanda. Udumo lunxila luyaphela xa efumanisa kwaye alandele oko kuye ngokungafi. Emva koko akangenelwa, kodwa ukhanyisa ukukhanya okukhanyisa iingcinga zakhe ezingalunganga. Uyayeka ukucinga ngodumo, ukusebenzela udumo. Ucinga kwaye usebenzela ukungafi, imeko yokuba uqhubeke ngokuqonda nangaluphi na uhlobo okanye imeko akuyo.

Ukunxila ngokomoya kukwenza imisebenzi yamandla engqondo ukuze ube nento oyifunayo ukuba ingamandla. Ukunxila kwayo kuyaqhubeka ngumbono wobuqu phambi kwayo yonke enye into, nangomyolelo wokuba kufuneka uhlonelwe kwaye unqulwe kwabanye abantu. Ukunxila ngamandla kugqwetha ingqondo kumalungelo abanye, kwaye kugqithisa ubukhulu bayo. Isebenzisa amandla ayo ukunyanzela ukuhlonelwa nokunqulwa. Ukunxila kwayo kuyanda ngenxa yezikhuzo, indumiso, intlonipho, kunye nabanye, nangokucinga kobukhulu bakhe. Ukunxila kwamandla kwenza umntu abe yingozi kuye nakwilizwe.

Ukunxila kwamandla kunokoyiswa ngokubamba amandla ekukhanyeni kwengqondo kunye nokubona ngaphakathi. Ngexesha ulwazi luya kufumaneka kumandla. Amandla luhlobo apho ulwazi lusebenza khona kwaye lubonakaliso lolwazi. Xa ulwazi lufumaneka buqu luyaziwa. Uthando ke libonisa indlela kunye nolwazi oluchonga uthando ngaphakathi kuye kwaye luyazi kubo bonke abanye. Emva koko ukunxila kwamandla kuphelile. Ulwazi ngamandla, olusetyenziselwa ukwandisa ulwazi kwabanye, lungafuni indumiso okanye unqulo lwabo. Ubom bomntu buyaziwa ngokunxulumene nabanye, ngaphandle kwabo. Ulwazi lusebenziso lwayo yonke.