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UKUCINGA NOKUQINISA

UHarold W. Percival

ISAHLUKO VI

INDLELA YOKUZONWABISA

Icandelo 4

Iimpembelelo zabazali. Iingcamango zomama. Ilifa leengcinga zangaphambili.

Yinto abathi ikamva lo mntwana uphawu kuxhomekeke kumama nakwindawo ahlala kuyo. Oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo. Umama ungumntu kodwa sisixhobo esivumayo okanye esingavumiyo esisebenza ngokwe imo isiphelo umntwana elizayo.

Amalinge baye bazama imveliso kwinzala ukuba wayeza kuzizalisekisa ezithile amathemba. Inkoliso yabo iye yasilela. Phakathi kwamaGrike, oomama ababelindele ukuba babejikelezwe zizinto ezilungele ukuveliswa kwabantwana abasempilweni, abahle nabanobungangamsha. abantwana ezo rhoqo zaveliswa, kangangoko emzimbeni iimpawu babekhathazekile; kodwa abazali abakwazi ukuvelisa oonobumba amanene kunye nongqondongqondo. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo umfazi ukuqinisekisa yena umntwana oya abe nengqondo iimpawu kwaye amandla engqondo kukuba nezi zinto ngokwakhe, ukuzilawula iminqweno kwaye ucinge ngezihloko eziphakamileyo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Noko ke, amabhinqa kunye namandla iminqweno okanye ebambe tenaciously ukuba a cinga zibonise ukuba iziphumo engaqhelekanga ukuze ngamanye amaxesha eveliswe kwiimpembelelo ezingabonakaliyo kunye izangoma ekhoyo phezu imo indiza ngexesha lokukhula kwesibeleko. Marks senziwe ngomhla umzimba umntwana, ngenxa umfanekiso kuqhutyelwa iingcinga of nonina, koko wakha ngaphandle yi izinto zokuqala. Ummangaliso inkanuko bonwabile, boyikisa iminqweno imikhwa eyenziweyo kunye neyahlukileyo eyamkelweyo emntwaneni; okanye ukuzalwa okukhawulezileyo okanye sisidodo ngenxa abathile konina.

Le uphazamiseko Kubonakala ekuqaleni ukuze siphikise umthetho wengcinga, njengoko isiphelo; kodwa akukho zingqubanayo. Amaxesha amaninzi xa supposes unina ukuba yintoni unobangela amanqaku zokuzalwa okanye ukuthambekela umntwana, kuye kwanyanzeleka ukuba senze womntwana kwangaphambili iingcinga. Umntwana wakhe isiphelo ukhangeleka ukuba aphazamise yintshukumo umama ufumana intlawulo nje ukuba isenzo efanayo kwenziwa komnye nje ngaphambi ubomiNgelixa umama ehlawula umntwana ngenxa yophazamiseko olufana nolwakhe okanye kolunye ikamva lobuzwilakhe ngaphambili ubomi, Okanye ukumisela ngenxa yezizathu le umthetho amanqaku entsha nekufuneka kwaye ziya kuhlawulwa kwixesha elizayo. Xa umenzi kubo ezifana imo or ikamva lobuzwilakhe kubangelwa kukuba ukulungele kwakhona iyaqhubeka, iya umdla abazali abanezi mibono uphuhliso siswini.

Ukuba indoda nomfazi wayo bamsulungekile emizimbeni yabo nakwabo iingcinga, Ziya kutsala i umenzi eza kuza umzimba wakhe isiphelo kufuna iimeko ezinjalo. I isiphelo kugqitywa ngaphambi lokukhulelwa. Emva kokuba kwenziwe le ukumitha, unina akakwazi ukutshintsha uphawu Iimpawu zengqondo ezi umenzi eya kubakho kwakhona; konke okusemandleni ukuba sinokuyenza ukuphazamisa okanye elinye amazwi abo, ukuba lowo unguye isiphelo yomntwana.

Umama no kunene Ukuthetha ukuba loluphi uphawu lomntwana oluza kubakho, okanye kweliphi inqanaba ubomi uya ubambe. Kananjalo akanayo kunene ukuzama ukumisela isini sayo. I sex sele kugqitywe phambi nokukhulelwa; naziphi na iinzame ku utshintsho na, umthetho kwaye athe wamlimaza umntwana.

Kunye ekuqaleni ukukhulelwa, unina lingeniswa ngokusondeleyo ngaphandle kwebala kunye imo indiza. Yena kufuneka ubambe ngokwakhe ukuba nyulu ubomi ukucingisisa kwizifundo eziphakamileyo, ke ngoko kunqandwa engafanelekanga iingcinga. Yakhe kunene ukuguqula le iingcinga, inkanuko kwaye iminqweno eza kuye kuxhomekeke nangendlela oku kunempembelelo ngayo yena. Unayo kunene ukwala ukuthobela nayiphi na imbonakalo evakalelwa ukuba iya kumthoba kuye kuqikelelo okanye ekonzakaliseni impilo yakhe yangoku okanye yexesha elizayo.

uphuhliso siswini kuvula izangoma indalo umama olindele kwaye yenza kuye ezibuthathaka kwiimpembelelo ukusuka imo moya. Ukuba usempilweni, engqondweni kwaye isimilo, Izigaba ingaqhelekanga ngokweemvakalelo apho amava beza kuye ngenxa iingcinga ye umenzi eya kubakho emntwaneni. Uma eyoba nesingesi okanye obuthathaka engqondweni, bayekele isimilo okanye umzimba ongazinzanga, unokubanjwa zonke iintlobo zezidalwa imo iplanethi, leyo umnqweno ukumjonga okanye ukumlawula nokuba abe ukushukumisa imeko yabo ebachasayo. indalo iziporho, iziporho zabantu abafileyo kunye nokuziphatha okugwenxa iminqweno Icandelo lokuphila nelilahlekileyo abenzi, banokungena kuyo. Ukuba umzimba wakhe awomelele ngokwaneleyo okanye kuye iminqweno Akaphikisani nabo okanye ukuba akanangqondo iphakamileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba angamelana nezicelo zabo kwaye akazi ukuba bazigcine kude kangakanani, ezi zidalwa zikhangela kwimvakalelo zinokumlawula. Unxunguphalo olukhawulezileyo, ukunxila nokunxila kunye nokuzonwabisa kunokuzonwabisa ngaphakathi; ngenkani inkanuko yanelisekile; iinkqubo zokuguqula zivumelekile; iziqhushumbisi ze umsindo ekhokelela ekubulaweni nasekungcungcuthekeni kwegazi inokwenzeka; Iiparoxysms zobushushu obuqabulayo, ubumnandi obutshixwayo okanye ubukhali ubumnyama, inokujonga umama ngokungaqhelekanga okanye ngomjikelo ojikelezayo. Iimeko ezinjalo zihlala zibangelwa zizidalwa ezilahliweyo kumjelo ongumntu inkqubela phambili.

Kwelinye icala, ixesha lokukhulelwa linokuba lolokwanelisa, apho umama anovelwano kuye wonke umntu; ixesha lokuvuselelwa kwengqondo, ukuzonwabisa kunye ubomi, ye injabulo, umnqweno kunye nokuqonda okuphezulu, kwaye unokufumana ulwazi lwezinto ezingaziwayo. I Iimozulu engenayo umenzi dibanisa ne Iimozulu womama, kwaye iingcinga ukujikeleza kwi Iimozulu yesibeleko siyamchaphazela. Ubume be umenzi I-fetus isebenza phezu kwayo ngokusebenzisa Iimozulu yomama, kwaye lonke uqhagamshelo lwenziwe ngokusebenzisa ukuphefumla.

Yonke le nto ikamva lobuzwilakhe ye umenzi oya kuhlala emzimbeni olungiselelweyo, kwangokunjalo ixesha ilungile umama kwaye yeyakhe isiphelo. Eli xesha lokuba ngumfazi ubomi icacile ingqondo. Unokufunda lukhulu ngokufunda kuye iimvakalelo kwaye iingcinga ngelixesha ixesha, kuba ngokwenza oko unokulandela hayi iinkqubo ze indalo ngaphakathi kwakhe, kodwa azibone zisebenza kwihlabathi langaphandle. Ngapha koko, kuye msebenzi ukukhusela umzimba ophethwe nguye kwiimpembelelo ezimbi ezinokuthi ziwuthimbe kuye.

Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba ukukhula kobuninzi buqala kwaye ukujikeleza kusekwe phakathi kwesibeleko kunye nomama, omane Iimozulu womama kunye uhlobo lokuphefumla I-fetus iqhagamshelwe ngokudibeneyo. I ukutya uthatha inxalenye yegazi lakhe kwaye loo nto iyithweleyo ukuphefumla kwisibeleko, apho umenziyeyam iingcinga ziyafakwa ke. umnqweno Kumama okulunge ukutya okanye utywala okanye ukutya okungaqhelekanga kunye neziselo, zivela iingcinga ye umenzi ezizibonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni womzimba kamva ubomi njengokubizwa kwa ubuchule okanye izinto ezimbi.

Ngutata ilifa igxunyekwe kwintsholongwane yakhe iseli, ngumama okwintsholongwane yakhe iseli, kwaye i umenziyeyam ilifa kuyo uhlobo lokuphefumla. Kodwa akukho nto inokuza njengoko ilifa Kutata okanye umama ongangqinelaniyo no ilifa ye uhlobo lokuphefumla. lo ilifa, elawula njengescreen esiya kuvunyelwa kunina noyise, siqulathe imbonakalo eyenziwe kwi ezobe yangaphambili iingcinga ye umenzi kwaye idluliselwe kwi uhlobo lokuphefumla ekukhulelweni okanye ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Iingcamango zibekwa ngokudibeneyo njengotyekelo kwisibeleko ngendlela emibini: okokuqala njengezimvo ezikhutshiweyo ezivela ku uhlobo lokuphefumla ngokusebenzisa ilifa ukusuka kubazali, kwaye okwesibini ngqo ku uhlobo lokuphefumla as ingaphandle ku iingcinga kwi Imeko yengqondo ye umenzi. Emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, imikhwa efakwe kwisibeleko iphinde ibe phakathi komntwana ngokuthe ngcembe ikhula ibe ngumzimba imo kunye neempawu, utyekelo lwengqondo kunye nengqondo iimpawu namandla. Ekugqibeleni, umzimba uyeza ehlabathini iminqweno Iimpawu ezigqithiselwe yi umenzi emntwaneni ngotata noyise.

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